Sexual Wellness and Happiness

A recent study conducted by Carnegie Mellon University and published in the Journal of Economic Behavior and Organisation studied the correlation between happiness and sex in the paper, “Does Increased Sexual Frequency Enhance Happiness?”According to the study having more sex did not necessarily reverberate to more happiness in the couples who were studied.


The team found and wrote in the paper that, “Although it seems plausible that sex could have beneficial effects on happiness, it is equally plausible that happiness affects sex, or that some third variable, such as health, affects both.”

But sometimes, there are completely different factors leading to sexual tension between partners and unhappiness in peoples’ lives. It can stem from something as necessary and as basic as the use of contraceptives.

It’s also a known fact the effects of unprotected sex can also reach far and wide consequences. So why do people shy away from the usual protection while sex?

Consider the following scenarios, the first one speaks of a situation where two people are in a long distance relationship and due to comparatively low sexual activity, they are not habituated to the use of protection. The second scenario deals with a completely different situation where it becomes unfeasible to procure contraceptives from the chemist and heading over to an online retailer is the best option.

Case 1: A long distance relationship

Two people in a long distance relationship don’t have much going on in terms of physical intimacy. They might meet in the interval of weeks or sometimes several months. So when they meet at last it’s kind of natural for them to enjoy each other physically. So skipping protection or popping the pill which is an easy way around, doesn’t solve the problem in its entirety and can have far reaching effects later on. Sometimes, the natural mode of protection like tracking the cycle can fail if not done carefully; after all it’s a biological process going on inside the body.
So the couple has to resort to buying condoms at a drug store or at the billing counter of the supermarket. This is not a very nice experience for many people. (This example is purely cultural and does not transcend in to all societies and cultural practices.)
The smarter way (especially after the rise of popularity of online retailers) is to buy them online where their package is discreetly marked and the bank statement marks the transaction to a healthcare company.

Case 2: A hypothetical situation where a guy recalls his problems

Sexual wellness doesn’t only constitute buying condoms and popping the pills. What I experience is that there is an availability of a wide range of “pleasure enhancers” online which you may not find at a drug store, or refrain from going to the drug store due to social or cultural reasons. Men sometimes don’t understand the need for lubricants but it is essential for a woman to experience a smooth intercourse or it may lead to injuries or in some cases a prolapse. And lubricants do enhance the pleasure for both the man and the woman which shows there are multiple benefits using lubricants.

Sometimes when my girlfriend delays her period by some days, it causes a great deal of panic and unrest for reason being that unprotected sex might have caused an unplanned pregnancy. It soon boils down to fights and trust issues. Most women prefer a condom as condoms are lubricated. Vaginas are particularly sensitive to chemical based lubricants so water based lubricants are the safe go. Online shopping at websites like are easier to access and shop at because asking for a condom at a chemist’s would be a hard game, particularly if we have to define the type or the composition of the condoms/ lubes we ask for.

Furthermore, on the man’s side most of the condoms bought over the counter are not specific to their size. Online shopping provides the requisite information if size becomes a concern for the man. Such customised services comfortably available online makes our sexual wellness shopping a great experience.

(Written by staff for an awareness campaign about health. ©2013-2015, The Idea Bucket)

Author: Anya

Founder at The TechGirl Journal & The IDEA Bucket ; Anya lives in California while working in the field of Computational Genomics. TechGirl Journal is focussed on the lifestyle of a girl in STEM and tips on how to build a business and a career in tech with a focus on skill-development, interviews, internship, personal projects, and pet-peeves! The IDEA Bucket is focused on small business ventures and practical, urban lifestyles. For specific inquiries, you can e-mail:

2 thoughts on “Sexual Wellness and Happiness

  1. This was very interesting to me to see the differences in attitudes towards, and knowledge of, sex between cultures. Also interesting to note that both cultures have a history of sexual freedom, and experimentation. Dichotomies indeed! Thanks to the writer(s) for this piece. Ignorance is dangerous in sexual relations, even deadly.


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